And remember this: we're human beings. We get angry, we get upset, we get irrational. That doesn't make us bad people.
And when you're irrational with grief and anger and pain--even if it feels like you're thinking clearly--the things you think and feel don't make you a bad person either. Don't give in to those things, but don't hate yourself for feeling them. We all have that capacity. It's an ugly side of the human condition, but it doesn't make us bad people. It just makes us people. What we feel is what we feel. What we choose to do about those feelings is where we define who we are.
Understand that, that you don't need to blame yourself for what you feel.
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And remember this: we're human beings. We get angry, we get upset, we get irrational. That doesn't make us bad people.
And when you're irrational with grief and anger and pain--even if it feels like you're thinking clearly--the things you think and feel don't make you a bad person either. Don't give in to those things, but don't hate yourself for feeling them. We all have that capacity. It's an ugly side of the human condition, but it doesn't make us bad people. It just makes us people. What we feel is what we feel. What we choose to do about those feelings is where we define who we are.
Understand that, that you don't need to blame yourself for what you feel.